Going through a divorce can be difficult for you and your children. Although divorce may be the best solution for you and your ex, it can take a long time for your children to accept and understand their new normal.
Giving your children the support they need can seem like it changes all the time. While you may not feel like you have all of the answers to your children’s needs and questions, there are a few simple ways you can help them feel supported.
Here are some ways to support your children as they adjust to life after your divorce.
Open for questions
There may be elements of your divorce that you do not want to share with your children. Being open to questions does not mean they get access to everything between you and your ex. Still, it does mean you will answer their questions in a child-appropriate way.
When you allow your children to ask their questions, they will feel more comfortable talking to you as they start to think about more significant questions. It will also make your relationship feel more stable when it is time to start discussing when they live with each parent.
Keep your conflict separate
Your children likely already know that there is tension between you and your ex; they do not need to know the details about how your ex wronged you.
Most likely, your children will need to maintain a relationship with your ex. If they feel too involved or have too much information about the conflict between you, it may be difficult for them to have a positive relationship. As much as possible, it is beneficial to allow your children a chance to form their own opinions about both parents.
Supporting your children through a divorce can be challenging, but it can help them have a sense of normalcy during a time when their world feels unstable.