Communication between co-parents can be sensitive. The chances of misunderstandings can be high, especially at the beginning when both parties are getting used to the reality of not being with their child daily.
You and your co-parent need to determine how to maintain effective communication. Here is how you can do this:
Manage your emotions
Emotions can be high when handling child-related issues. You may have strong feelings when your co-parent wants to reschedule dropping off or picking up the child at the last minute or when they make a major decision without involving you, for instance, choosing a primary care physician. Besides, you or your co-parent may have unresolved emotions from the divorce, which may lead to disagreements.
It’s vital to manage your emotions when communicating with your co-parent. Going to therapy, joining a local support group and spending time with loved ones can help you deal with your emotions and determine the best ways to handle a heated conversation.
Be respectful
It’s essential to be respectful when communicating with your spouse. Choose the right words and tone to convey your messages. If you disagree with their opinion, politely let them know that.
Don’t respond immediately
You need to respond promptly to some conversations. For example, when your co-parent informs you of a medical issue, requests a schedule change or sends an important school update.
However, if a discussion is not about an emergency and you need time to find a suitable answer, inform your co-parent that you will contact them later with a response. This allows you to assess different factors to make an informed decision.
You and your co-parent should plan for your communication as you do with other co-parenting aspects. Learn more to know how you can maintain a successful relationship.