Children have to make some major life adjustments when their parents go through a divorce. One of the biggest is learning how to live in two distinctly separate homes. The transition can be difficult for a child who has lived their whole life in the same home with both parents.
You may be able to show them stability as they adjust to the divorce. This could be a bit easier if you and your ex can agree on major rules so they’re consistent throughout both homes.
Establish the new routine
Change can be overwhelming for children, especially when it follows something as emotional as a divorce. One of the most effective ways to ease the transition is to establish familiar routines in the new home. Whether it’s keeping a similar bedtime, having weekly pizza nights or maintaining the same morning rituals, consistency gives kids a sense of stability.
Establish a space for the child
Setting up their new room with familiar items, such as favorite blankets, posters or toys also helps them feel grounded. Letting kids personalize their space can also help them feel a sense of ownership. Even small choices, like picking out bed sheets or arranging shelves, can go a long way in helping them adjust.
One of the most important things to do is to set the parenting plan up as quickly as you can. This can help to set the terms for the new way of life they’ll have to get used to. It may be beneficial to work with someone familiar with these matters so they can assist you with getting the terms of the parenting plan set up so it reflects the best interests of the children.